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Saturday, February 23, 2008

Knowing when to let go...

'There are two things we should give our children; one is roots and the other is wings!!!' How do you know when to let go? Will we always be children to our parents and will our children always be kids to us? My best friends daughter is in her first year in the university and these are turbulent times for them. Her daughter wants to strike out on her own, my friend still wants her tied to the apron strings. I am, no surprise here, on the daughters side. Her mother is afraid that she might make mistakes...didn't we all? You cannot stop your kids from making any mistakes cos if they don't, how can they learn from them. We only hope that we have given them the tools to avoid the worse ones. What I believe is that the early adult years, especially with daughters, presents new opportunities for a mother/daughter relationship to evolve into a more matured 'semi friends' relationship. However, most mothers think of daughters as a new beginning to revisit their own deferred dreams, make up for mistakes made and relive their lives through the daughters.

8 comments:

jinni said...

Well said.Your kids have a good mum.

'Yar Mama said...

Jinni,Thanx for checkimg in on my blog. Checked urs and found it very interesting

myabubakar said...

@'yar mama ..came across ur blog at hajia's.
Welcome to blogosphere and itching to read more and more posts from you.

'Yar Mama said...

Myabubakar, nagode. Sai kun gaji cos I have a lot of opinions about things that affect the progress of our people.

pamela said...

I agree!!

pink gloves said...

Your kids are lucky to have you as a mother. With ur state of mind, u will do well.
My mother and I are best of friends. Every discussion under the sun we can have.

Naapali said...

you are truly special. I do not claim to be an experienced blogger but in my short time on here, I have rarely met someone who so quickly with their clarity of thought and expression has touched so many people the way you have.

I truly hope you keep this up and continue to enrich this community with your wisdom.

*Lady D* said...

i just came across your blog thru ibiluv. This post is has pulled on my heartstrings. I'm basically in your friend's daughter's shoes. And these shoes hurt....But thanks for addressing this usually overlooked issue in the Nigerian culture.